Your wedding day is a momentous occasion - a celebration of the union of two souls embarking on a lifelong journey together. You have your whole life ahead of you to make memories together… and that starts today.
It is a day filled with love, joy, and cherished memories. Amidst the flurry of excitement and the whirlwind of emotions, there is one piece of advice that often gets overlooked but holds immense significance: Do not leave your partner’s side.
It may seem like an obvious rule, but in the midst of chaotic schedules, last-minute errands, and diverse responsibilities, it’s crucial to pause and reflect on the reasons why you should remain by your partner’s side on this occasion.
We’ve highlighted the impact that staying together on your wedding day can have. From emotional support to the symbolism of unity, there are compelling reasons to resist the temptation to wander off, get caught up in tasks, or get dragged away (yes, we’re giving you the perfect excuse to avoid that smelly Aunt).
Reason number one is that your wedding day is going to be emotionally draining. It’s a gathering of all the people that mean most to you as a couple, a promise to devote your life to one other, and the beginning of a new chapter.
And if, God forbid, anything does go wrong, they will be at your right hand to support you as you deal with it together.
There will be so many emotions you encounter on the day of your wedding and going through that alone would be quite difficult (not to mention mildly odd).
This person you are promising to share your life with should now be familiar with how to acknowledge your feelings, calm any anxieties and share your joys - all things you will appreciate on this day and for many to come.
To Look After Each Other
Following from the emotional support, there may also be a requirement for physical support.
Now, I hope there will be no illness on your wedding day but trust me when I say: As a bride/groom, it is very easy to lose track of time, get distracted, and get pulled in a million different directions all at once.
This can mean that you don’t get a chance to eat, drink, wee, breathe, etc. etc.
By staying together, you increase your accountability for one another and ensure you are getting to experience all the lovely things you’ve spent so long choosing and have paid a lot of money and attention to, like canapés and wines, as well as the people.
Symbolism of Unity
A wedding literally symbolises the unity of two people… The melding of two lives… When two became one…
This one seems relatively self-explanatory, but being physically present and united reinforces the idea of unity and shows you two off.
Remember, these people came to see you, to celebrate you AS A COUPLE - so give the people what they want.
Share a Mutual Experience
This day has likely been coming for a while and you’ve imagined it a million times over. You’ve worked so hard to pull it all together and now is your chance to enjoy it.
These moments cannot be relived.
Go on, read that again.
When reflecting on your day, you don’t want to have lots of stories your partner can’t relate to. Instead, you want to both laugh and share moments that were experienced together. Obviously, there will be a few moments or stories to share (maybe they missed Uncle Dave busting out the worm), but as a celebration of the two of you, you don't want to have to fill your partner in on your experience of the day and hear they had a completely different experience.
This mutual experience is one you will be reflecting upon for years to come. Having separate experiences or missing out on key moments can make it challenging to fully share in the memories of the day, so being together can create a stronger connection and shared history.
Deal with Unexpected Challenges Together
Going back to the idea of being each other’s emotional support, as I mentioned, being together on your wedding day means that there are two of you to tackle any delays, mishaps, and challenges.
The wedding planning process is stressful and it all culminates in this one day - being together to deal with any stresses and overcome challenges as a team will make your wedding day much more enjoyable for you both.
Increased Photo Opportunities
Another painfully obvious reason, I know, but by sticking together, your photographer is able to get more photos of the two of you.
This can be great for the particularly picky subject, but it also allows for more candids, family shots, and small moments you might not realise the significance of at the time.
Having these moments to flick back through can be such a special surprise when you receive your wedding photos.
The importance of being physically together with your partner on your wedding day cannot be overstated. There are countless reasons to resist the urge to separate. By remaining by each other’s side, you create a bond that strengthens your connection and forms the foundation of shared memories. You’ll laugh, cry, and celebrate together, knowing that every moment was shared.
Written by Siobhan Tinnion
Events & Marketing Manager
The phrase ‘something blue’ comes from the old good luck rhyme for brides: ‘Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue’. If a bride is to have all 4 of these accounted for on her wedding day, it will bring her good luck and blessings in different areas of her marriage.
‘Something blue’ is thought to promote purity, fidelity and deters the evil eye. Traditionally, the bride would wear a blue garter, but if you’ve read our blog post ‘10 Ways to Modernise the Traditional Wedding’, you know we aren’t always ones to go along with tradition.
We have collated a selection of creative ways to incorporate something blue into your wedding day, for both the brides and grooms - because we all need some good luck.
Some brides who are not keen to follow tradition to the letter may opt for a non-white dress. Whilst daring colours like black are becoming more popular, there is nothing to say the something blue can’t be a wedding dress.
Similarly, the groom(s) could be the something blue.
The Wedding Party: Bridesmaids/mates and Groomsmen/mates
You’ve selected these friends and family members to support you on one of the biggest days of your life - I’m sure they would love to be the ones to bless your marriage and bring the good things that come from being your something blue.
This option may be limited should the colour not match the decor and theming of your wedding, as the outfits of the bridesmates and groomsmates tend to match the overall look of your day. If there’s no blue already incorporated in your stationery, flowers, or table settings, then having a blue wedding party may look out of place - although this is completely to your taste.
If you are keen to have a person as your something blue, the other options could include your flower girls, your parents, or any children involved in the ceremony. The effect of this can be something of importance to the person chosen - as they may not be already involved in the ceremony in a large way (i.e. the immediate wedding party), and so can make them feel more involved.
For those that would like to stay more in-line with tradition and keep the wedding dress white, you could always get it personalised in some way - like you might your veil (mentioned below). This little detail would make your dress infinitely unique and would be a great little touch for the photos.
Similarly, grooms could get their cuffs, collars, jackets or even socks personalised with initials, dates, or little symbols like love hearts or smileys.
Caitlin Tinnion Bespoke is an independent Savile Row trained tailor, providing completely bespoke services for you to get exactly the look you want for your wedding attire. She is a great option for brides and grooms in the South West looking for a way to make their wedding attire that little bit more unique.
We asked Caitlin what her favourite ‘something blue’ personalisation was:
‘If you’re going for subtle, I would say buttonholes or a little personal embroidery. It’s a hint of something that only a few people know is there, so feels super special. But if you want to make a statement, I love putting in personalised lining for people. It really gives that sense of individuality for the garment and is something people always love to show off.’
Caitlin offers complete tailoring services, alterations and details, and is open to personal requests, so get in touch with her directly to brainstorm your ‘something blue’.
A bride’s wedding shoes aren’t necessarily seen for a lot of the day, which can be a shame when they are often expensive and time goes into choosing them (and they probably love them an awful lot too).
They can also be the first thing to get ruined when venturing out for your wedding photos post-ceremony - especially for the outdoor wedding/unpredictable English weather combination we often seen here in the UK.
I’ve not seen a lot of grooms opt for blue shoes, but if it didn’t clash with their suit, then I don’t see why they couldn’t - again, it’s personal preference at the end of the day.
Wearing blue shoes can not only reduce the visible damage that is endured throughout the day, but can also add a fun pop of colour when they peep out the bottom of your dress as you walk.
As much as we want to give alternatives to tradition, there is always the option to keep it simple and follow suit in what has been done for years. Although not every bride opts for a garter anymore, there are some stunning ones on the market - and some blue ones at that.
We would recommend checking out Etsy shops and getting something handmade or personalised, to make it all the more special if you do want to go down the traditional route.
Whether it be a necklace, bracelet or earrings, your something blue could be worn in the form of jewellery - from something small and delicate to something bold and out there; whatever matches your taste.
Some brides wear veils, some wear tiaras, some wear decorative pins. Whatever the choice of headwear, why not consider a blue tone?
It is becoming increasingly popular to personalise a veil (please tell me you’ve seen Kourt’s custom Dolce & Gabanna veil?!) with something small like stitching of yours and your partners initials and/or your wedding date, or something more extravagant, like a depiction of the Virgin Mary - which could, of course, be blue.
There are so many different styles of cuff links available and personalised ones make a great gift for yourself or your groom for the morning of the wedding (and, of course, could be your something blue).
A very simple and small detail to your day: The ring boxes.
They will be photographed numerous times and will hold one of the most important aspects of your wedding.
Yes, yes, I know the modern bride has her heart on Hailey Bieber nails, but hear me out…
You could go for a French tip, subtle pastel detailing, or bold and bright accents. What’s fun is that it can be completely tailored to each person’s taste and how much blue you want to bring into your day.
Nail art is not just for the brides around either, so why not consider a matching design or something that compliments your partner’s look?
Something Old, New, or Borrowed
For many of these options, there are numerous ways you can double up on the criteria it fills. Whether it be something bought brand new, passed down through generations or borrowed from someone close to you in the wedding party, you kill two birds with one stone.
Whilst we love the idea of bringing ‘something blue’ into your wedding, we know that it isn’t something everyone desires. The rhyme is an old-time tradition and the modern couple may want to stray away from such. If this is you, why not read our blog post with ‘10 Ways To Modernise The Traditional Wedding’?
Written by Siobhan Tinnion
Event & Marketing Manager
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